As a dad, and a single father, I always found it difficult to have this kind of conversations with my 11 year old daughter, this journal has given me clarity and it’s made the conversations less odd and more fluid. Life saver!
These cards are great conversation starters and have facilitated deep, relationship-building conversations with my loved ones. They provide a valuable opportunity to assess, analyze, and reflect on your relationships, allowing you to make necessary changes if needed.
ATTRACT makes communication about things that would have been awkward bringing up easier and doesn’t allow leaving things to chance to come up, allow for intentionality and openness in a fun way. And it is the way the answer to the same question kind of differs based on the situation of things at the time. It also allows to see changes because talking about things, acting on lessons learnt, coming across the question another time, you can tell if there is improvement in relationship based on first response and the now response. A great buy I would say.
The ATTRAC.T Model
Some parents find that their inability to engage in meaningful conversations with their kids has made them more detached from their children.
Sadly, they discover this much too late and, for many apparent reasons, find it challenging to maintain a relationship with their adolescent or adult child. A parent's greatest wish for a meaningful relationship with their child is to communicate with them. Where their interaction is unproductive, avoidance will eventually result from conversations that incite resentment, persistent threats, or arguments.
We observe an increase in upset parents and disgruntled teenagers who struggle to coexist with their parents due to their poor communication skills and inability to put forth the effort necessary to comprehend the various stages of their growth. In light of this, some kids would rather be homeless than grow up in what they perceive to be an unpleasant household. While parents feel isolated and undervalued as a result of this cascading effect.
A youngster can feel understood, disputes can be handled, and self-expression is encouraged through meaningful talks. In order to preserve good connections, parents must be particularly interested in understanding their child and master the art of constructive conversations.
The ATTRAC.T Model is, in my opinion is an excellent instrument for fostering connections with children of diverse ages.
I have started using the ATTRAC.T cards in my practice, it is a powerful tool for therapists and counsellors and I recommend it to my clients, particularly those that want to develop meaningful relationships with their children.
When a child is struggling with issues like exams, anxiety, body shaming, feeling judged, peer pressure, bullying, and a host of other things that can affect their nervous system, parents suffer side by side with them. Parental concerns also extend to factors that could cause a dysregulation of the nervous system, like inactivity, sleeplessness, sugary foods and drinks, alienation, and disorderly, chaotic environments.
Memory is a fundamental aspect of human cognition that is shaped by psychological, physiological, and social factors. It allows us to modify our thoughts and actions in the moment. So through fostering a close relationship based on trust, effective communication, and positive role modelling, parents can provide their children with nurturing and aid in the restoration of their neurological systems. They can make conscious effort to engage fully with the child by paying attention and listening to gain information and perspective, thereby able to offer guidance, develop relationship and interact deeper with their child. They can learn about and comprehend circumstances, cultural influences, and social roles of a child's experiences through active listening.
Where a parent struggle to talk about personal issues because they feel it might be evasive, ATTRAC.T cards does the job, using insightful questions to bring out in-depth thoughts to the surface.
Quality questions empower and help us see the way we interpret and evaluate our experiences and can shape how we think and behave. So the use of high quality questions to open meaningful and sometimes delicate conversations makes ATTRAC.T MODEL unique, thereby parents can deepen bond and create ways to influence positive outcomes with their child.
As a dad for 2 teens this has helped us connect deeper than ever before! The question helps my teens articulate their words and feelings and it’s helped me as dad learn more and change the way I parent my kids. Amazing tool that helps families go deeper