HOW TO USE YOUR CARDS

Understanding and Getting the Best Out of Your Conversations.

Welcome. Got a card with you and wondering how best to approach or ask the question? This page serves as your very own reference assistant! References here have been carefully curated by our partnering specialists, psychologists and our in-house team. Simply click on the alphabet and the questions within will appear - then look for the CATEGORY reference to the conversation card you have with you.

The 5 Question Categories

What does the A.TTRAC:T mean? Each card is assigned a category; learn more about how to have these conversations.

...Always Remember...

YOUR CHILD IS

As Human as You.

YOUR CHILD

Yearns For & Needs You.

YOUR CHILD

Wants To Win In Life as Much as You Do.

YOUR CHILD'S POSITIVE

Mental & Emotional Health Is Critical.

YOU ARE

As Human as Your Child.

YOU

Need Your Child.

YOU ARE THE

Springboard They'll Leap From.

YOUR

Mental & Emotional Health Is a Springboard.

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You will have the opportunity to learn through real life examples, interact with other parents using the methodology. Join a Live class with the Founder, Nkechi on how best to follow through with your bonding and communication journey. See you in one of the classes.
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Starting with the A.TTRAC:T Way of Bonding

Whether you are a young parent, older parent, carer, guardian, children group leader, a teen group leader or team member, or are seeking greater clarity, this interactive class is designed to guide you through the steps to find your A.TTRAC:T—your way to best connect, bond and guide your child. It starts with your willingness to be open, transparent, honest, see the bigger picture and to trust the process. And through it all, we’re there to help.

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Expert Advice On Your Conversation Cards.

P-C: means the question is for a parent to a child. C-P: means the question is for a child to a parent. P-C, C-P cards mean that both parent and child can have a conversation on the topic collaboratively. These questions are not strictly limited to parents and children: families, partners, couples, friends can have a go at these timeless conversations as well.
Act intentionally on what you hear, see and are told. Accountability is key. When a loved one shares their heart and mind with you, listening intently will make you more sensitive to what is being communicated to you. Act by dedicating yourself to being accountable for actions that will improve your bonding relationship with your loved one. Do you need to 'act' on something that's been communicated to you? Is your loved one asking or pleading for you to shift a behaviour/habit or mindset? Is there something you think you could 'do better' with? When you know an action is required from you, wen you discover through reflection that you could be better and do better, ACT. Kindly note that 'ACTION' takeaways may not always need to come from you alone; if your loved one needs to take accountability, you can initiate a collaborative accountability partnership where you both become accountable for your progress and the outcomes of your actions..
Use an Icebreaker card first. Especially if there is a pre-existing conflict between you and your loved one. Icebreakers open up the airwaves for the start of an amiable conversation. They also help reduce the release of cortisol and adrenaline in a conflict environment. More importantly, 'Transcend with an Icebreaker' cards ask questions you wouldn't normally pick on...usually. Make your conversation light, be open, be transparent, and be honest as this will give your loved one the opportunity to do the same. To make your loved one a friend, you have to be genuinely friendly: it is a collaboration, not a dictatorship.
While you listen intently to your loved one, to their words, emotions and expressions, critically weigh it all. Tactical reflection is about looking inwards and putting yourself in your loved ones shoes, as well as reflecting on your 'WHY' for feedback you give to each topic you talk about. Tactical reflection offers you the opportunity to become self-aware, and accountable for certain aspects of your relationship with your loved one. To make your loved one a friend, you have to be genuinely friendly: it is a collaboration, not a dictatorship.
Actively participate in 'AC' conversations. Don't zone out, try to dominate, or rush these conversations. With over 50 'Active Conversation' cards you have loads routes to actively participate in a bonding conversation with your loved one. Be mentally and emotionally involved in 'AC' conversations. Share, laugh, tell and embrace each others responses. To make your loved one a friend, you have to be genuinely friendly: it is a collaboration, not a dictatorship.
Sharing honestly, openly and transparently isn't every parents or family members experience, so when you experience this, be thankful and grateful for each opportunity. Give thanks, raise a sound or words of gratitude when your loved one opens up to you and you open up to them. This is a critical step in your bonding journey. Say 'Thank you', or 'I am grateful', or 'I appreciate this time with you'; simply be openly thankful. To make your loved one a friend, you have to be genuinely friendly: it is a collaboration, not a dictatorship.